some cisgender men [sometimes] couple with women. this doesn’t neccessarily make them more aware of patriarchy, or exonerate them from having to address their sexism, right? it is assumed that even if a cis man dates women, he will still hold on to his male privilege. he will not lose male privilege as a result of dating women. men who date women may still be abusive or violent. dating women doesn’t automatically mean that men will never act out male privilege again, harbor gender stereotypes, or be all-out chauvanists.

so, why do we so often assume that just because a white person is dating a person of color, that they deserve a get-out-of-racism free pass, don’t maintain and act out white privilege, or somehow “can’t be racist” just because they are coupled with a brown person?

i’m curious. is this a realistic, fair analogy?